tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3686388619983191247.post6834661001305435978..comments2013-08-22T03:37:18.826-07:00Comments on My closeted li(f)e: Big changesnormalkid88http://www.blogger.com/profile/14990695692919797799noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3686388619983191247.post-90506327387776563042013-08-22T03:37:18.826-07:002013-08-22T03:37:18.826-07:00Background--I'm an old guy, ancient by your st...Background--I'm an old guy, ancient by your standards, but really kind of new to admitting that I am gay. My perspective is probably a bit strange, and may not be relevant, but I am compelled to respond anyway. <br /><br />I know how hard it is to finally let someone in to your 'inner circle', to trust, to let yourself start to believe in the possibility of a relationship only to have it smashed to bits. I don't really know the right answer because, like you probably are, I want to believe that people are mostly good. However, I think that Ender is probably right. There is not much you can do right now.<br /><br />I suggest that you stop the texting...for now. Do nothing and let him figure out what he really wants to do. It might take days or even weeks. As hard as it feels, you need to get over it. One of my favorite sayings goes something like this, "When someone hurts you, cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it."<br /><br />However, I am an eternal optimist, but a realist I think. I would give him a few weeks at least, and then I would send him another text...a long one... that says something like this.<br />"Sorry if I am interrupting you, but I need to tell you a few things. I really thought we had something special and hoped to see it develop more. Obviously, you didn't, but what you did was hurt me badly. There is no need to do that to anyone. A simple note to me that things were going too fast or you weren't as into me as I was into you would have been a kind thing to say. I just hope you don't treat others the way you treated me. Wishing you the best in your new life."<br /><br />It is likely, if you do this, that he will not respond, or, if he is any kind of man at all, will thank you for your comments...but don't think that he will ever come back. He has written this off. <br /><br />And remember, you are young with a full life ahead. There will be others, and you will find many who are worthy of you...wait for him.Buckeyein Richmondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16105817622569734342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3686388619983191247.post-59275968129636447292013-08-20T22:10:29.750-07:002013-08-20T22:10:29.750-07:00You did nothing wrong. The guy is being a jerk. It...You did nothing wrong. The guy is being a jerk. It hurts. There may be nothing you can say to him. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com